Empty spaces of the family tree

Seoul of my soul-blogger reminded me of the amazing arts project postsecret! with this postsecret 'Shhh'.

The empty spaces of the family tree stand out without any explanations - just white empty spaces.

If I were at a dinner party and spoke to a person who didn't know anything - and I mean anything at all - about the past 1 or 2 years of his/her life - and didn't really care to find out.. that would definitely call for a reaction on my behalf.

But when the 'missing years' or empty spaces happened at the beginning of your life then sometimes adoptees are met - from outside as well as from within - with an attitude of - starting over again and somehow cutting off the first months or years of one's life.

"Why do you want to know about Korea? You're Danish!" or even remarks like "Don't be too self-conscious"

Would you pass on similar remarks at a dinner party to someone who lost 1 or 2 years of their adult lives? Would you say "well, so what if you don't know where you were and who was with you for the past 2 years"